How do you make new friends? This has become a topic of discussion in my brain (and with my husband) lately. Whether remaining where you’ve lived for a long time, or in the case of a friend, moving to a new city, there is a need to make new friends. Even those who say, “I have all the friends I need,” can use more friends. And those who have few to none, then it’s really critical to figure out a way to make new friends.
It’s good to have lots of friends, but as I’ve recently found, friends die or disappear. That has been the case here, for me, in the last couple of years. Fortunately, I have met new people and some have become friends. I would like to further develop the friendships, but in the case of younger friends, they have busy lives with jobs and families so time is limited. I’m taking it slow and easy with those new friends.
A friend of mine has moved two hours away, to a city where she knows no one. That can offer quite an adventure in making new friends, but now she has become ill and needs friends to rally around her and come to her aid. There aren’t any and the distance makes it hard for the old friends to do so. I would make the suggestion to anyone planning to move away from their friends, be sure there are places you can go to make new friends before you make that move.
Another acquaintance, who I would like to consider a friend but whose actions make me wonder, has few to no one in her life. She has recently needed emotional support and there just isn’t anyone nearby to provide it. Because I’m a problem-solver, every time she calls on me, I want to offer solutions to the problems she has called about. But solutions are not what she wants. She never takes any advice and just keeps doing what she’s always done. Maybe new friends could offer better support than I can.
I have a wonderful group of friends who I can call on, and I’m thankful for those friends. However, I want to add more. Through volunteer activities I am meeting more people so I have hope of building on those relationships. Any new friends in your life? How did you make them? Have you moved and found it hard to connect and make friends? What advice would you make to someone who needs more friends in their life? Of course, as I wrote earlier, advice is not always taken!